Views about love, relationships, marriage

Just read some article in a local magazine.
It stated that Carina Lau & Tony Leung been attached for the past 16 yrs. Though there have been rumours ard saying that they have broken up, but they have been cohabiting for past few dunno how many yrs...

After reading that, I was thinking that hey that's true love isn't it? What's marriage? To some pple, its a promise of love.. to others its just a piece of paper. Some pple get married cos they found a partner to spend the rest of their lives with, some do it cos they have been together for many yrs. Been hearing too many cases of unhappy marriages happening to friends, relatives, colleagues...etc etc. the list just goes on.. So is it really so crucial whether one is married or not? It seems like its no longer a promise of a happy life (at least from a gal's point of view) now..unlike in the past probably in our grandmother's era.

Take Carina Lau & Tony Leung's example.. Tony Leung appears aloof most of the time.. however, he can be by Carina Lau's side for 16 yrs..16 yrs of relationship.. How many pple can promise that and really do it? Let's not discuss abt whether they should cohabit or not..but the fact stands that the love is still there after 16 yrs. Wow.. its really so rare.. really...How often do u hear couples not having a good marriage life a few yrs down the road? I've seen and heard too many... If true love is what u want.....isn't it just enough to find true love like that between Carina Lau & Tony Leung?

Was just chatting with a fren via MSN.. He was saying that he has no money for marriage..after giving him some "positive" light in life.. he has been throwing back negative views to EVERY single suggestion I gave..great.. never mind.. the thing is he's been thinking of the whole affair in monetary terms.. n after he has nothing else to talk abt in that aspects. he go on to tell me that he barely noe his gf for less than a yr.. Hey friend... time is not an issue in such things. U can know a person for >10 yrs but do u truly know everything abt them? Even if u think u do, life will sure be 100% different after marriage.. This is a fact we all have to face. Living together is always a different issue. Regardless of how many yrs u been in a relationship, there are still many things u got to learn together as a married couple.

Marriage is not everything abt money...its more on what u want out of it all... a scene in local drama, Love Concierge, left a very deep impression in me.. In the show, Fiona Xie was preparing for wedding with her bf. They had not much money too and chose to hold a simple wedding in a park... with just some close friends and family.. That's true love isn't it? There aint much guest, nothing grand. But one can feel the strong bonding between them. WOW... So what if do not huff enuff to buy a new flat? a rented flat or room will do too right?

But then again.. its all between the couple.. its ur life.. so its ur choice... that's all I can share..the rest is really up to u. as long as u r happy...:)